why I hate assistance.

[illin]

I work hard. I always have. I dont make alot of money but I am not as bad off as some. When I found out my Other was pregnant I knew I could not afford the bill. I have health insurance from work but it dosent cover her since we are not married. So we went and applied for wick and a medical card for her. I never wanted to have to do this. I am working and have nothing wrong with me besides my migraines and ibs, there are people who NEED this assistance, I dont like to think I am taking away from the ballance of the account of those in need. I should be the one filling the pot not taking from it, this really hurts my pride. This is not the problem because I am starting to see that maybe I am one of the ones who needs help. The problem is the other day my girl tells me that a social worker is coming to inspect the house.What because we are poor we are going to be bad parents? Is this just a way for them to control my life? I read some of NW and cocos posts about having to give them a key to thier residences. Do they not understand what they do to peoples emotions by violating thier privacy. So what if I say NO you cant come in my house? Will I be cut off from assistance? This is not just a rant about government assistance, why cant my girlfriend be covered on my insurance? The only reason we havent married yet is because I dont need the government to tell me how much I love her or certify it or keep it in thier records. It is our relationship and I feel it is a private thing. And now they try to force our hand in marriage. Just think if insurers had to pay for non married spouses through labor. That would save the taxpayers lots of money. Or why cant medical bills be more realistic in pricing. How can these crooks live with themselves knowing they are ripping sick people off. Oh I guess they assume everyone has insurance so they are just ripping off the insurance companies. Or why cant I make enough to afford to pay for the birth of my child. I mean come on almost everyone wants to have children and most end up doing just that. How many of these people can actually afford to pay for the birth without insurance? not many. Thats how the Government gets you on assistance and then they get to come in and look around your damn house. Which I REALLY REALLY dont need!

I will get off my soapbox now.

[Lucy]

between a rock and a hard place!

[buddyh]

In Cambridge Hospital in Cambridge, MA they have an assistance program that's not too hard to get into to. You go in and apply, they'll tell you what info you need to bring, you bring it in. If you qualify, they send you your cards in the mail. No one comes to your house. And a really nice thing about it is that they are affiliated with a Natural Birth Center that's right across the street. You can have your baby with a Mid-wife in a water birth and if there's any complications the Hospital is right next door.
It's a wonderful program.

[groo]

You might find yourself common-law "married" if you've been together long enough, in which case your work insurance covers your "wife". How long you have to be together varies from region to region. In Ontario I think it's as little as 6 months living together before you can claim common-law status, but as much as 7 years in Florida (IIRC.)

[Stray]

You only need to show that you share a home & prove residence.
They do not need to go through your belongings or go into your bedroom.
You do not have to give them a key to your home.
Know where to draw the line.

Find a welfare advocate and ask them what your rights are and if needed
ask one of them to deal with them on your behalf. Get the advocate to
attend meetings with you and your worker so you don't get screwed...
The more witnesses or advocates you have on your side the better.
Even a health nurse's input will help your family.

Stray...

[illin]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I talked with a friend at work who just had a baby in june. He said when they came to his house they just came over and sat on the couch and asked a few questions, he smokes and said I have nothing to worry about that they dont go through the house or anything. I guess I shouldnt be b!+(hin since they are going to help me out. I just didnt want to get busted over them seeing a stem in my ashtray or something stupid. And I was frustrated by the fact that I am poor.Im gonna clean the house up tomorow.

Oh and we have lived together for almost four years. Man I cant believe its been that long. But I think its seven to become commonlaw here

[Stray]

Its 2 years here for comon law...

Look at it from an outsiders perspective when you walk through & clean...
Make sure the house is clean & no *toys* are left out...
They do not need to see anything related to your meds...

Stray...

[bubbataz]

I just had to quit my job( for PTSD and RSD problems) because my doctor changed his opinion after SAIF denied the other 3 docters. Funny thing is, that my Dr. agreed with the others before they where denied. I believe he was bought out. Anyway, since this happened I had to go down and apply for assistance.(food stamps, money ect.) I've never been out of work, or not had insurance.( worse thing, I've been taking Enbrel for Arthritis. This runs $1382.39 a month :eek: ) you believe that sh*t. I'm going back to school when the court process is over. I'll get back on my feet soon enough. Been through to much in my life to give up now. Illin I hope it gets better for you and your girlfriend. Good luck and God bless. :)

[illin]

Well the lady just left about fifteen minutes ago. She came in and sat on the couch and talked with the ol lady. Gave her some pamphlets and a couple magazines, then left. Maybe fifteen minutes at most. She said she may do another home visit after the baby is born, but she dosent think so because our house is pretty nice and she has lots of bad families to look after. I guess I was trippin over nothing. The house is pretty darn clean though and that is nice. whew.

[Bulls&Bowls]

Illin, I know where you were coming from with the frustration. After my disability finally kept me from work I went in for assistance. My wife and I are commonlaw married with a 11 month old son...see avatar. Anyhow, we were approved for medical and foodstamps but denied cash aid because she made one dollar over the governments 596.00 a month. I am a f*cking Active Duty Army Veteran and this corrupt yock sucking government denied me help. Needless to say, I had to sell my truck to pay that months rent and buy babyfood. Still ended up having to move back in with her parents...That's why I'm in Colo now. Fortunately, I am intelligent enough to know that I need my family more than I need freedom, I got too frustrated and bailed.