JCC court today

[bobbyD]

in th ongoin saga called my divorce, today was filled with a trip to the BC supreme court,, for a JCC session,,,

i learned a few things today,,, and i gave my wifes lawyer shit in front of the judge,,, felt really gooood!!!!!

so last court visit my wife declared and swore an affadavit that she only made 51 grand,, - total crap,,,

she re- submitted a financial statement with her income goin up 30 grand takehome!!!! how nice,,,,

now her monthly spousal suypport will be based on 30 grand more,,per year,,, at that level i would get around 1100 per month support,,,

then her lawyer started in on me,, how cathy thinks i should be earning a lving but their are not sure what i could do to earn this living,, ???

here is where he pissed me off,, he opened his mouth and said what i hear so often that infuriates me,,

lawyer -'' bob could work,, cause i have a FRIEND with MS too and they are just fine''

well this pisses off all of us with ms,, people stating they feel we should be ok cause they know someone who is ok with Ms,,

i butt right in interupting him,, and said,, '' you cant say that,, and base it on me,, every single ms case is completely different,,'' and then i said '' i had 5 close friends who died from Ms last year , so dont try to compare me with anyone else's disease .''

the judge just looked at me,, and the lawyer and smiled at me,, i let him continue,,,

he then asked about me goin thru some 3rd party doctor etc and have themn do an examination of my occupational abilities,, for working,,

i butted in again,,,

''your honour,, i am awaiting approval of my provincial disability benefits, if they declare me disabled then doing this examination thing is a MUTE point!!!

as i would be declared disabled!!!! ,,

she judge agreed,,,

my lawyer was smiling,at me,,, at this point ,as this whole meeting was to discuss and try to work out,,,stuff.

the judge pressed them to make an agreement on my house equity,, the EX said she would pay me out,, agreed on it,, too,,,

then the kids issue came up,, idiot ex would rather pay 400 per month per kid, to have kids in daycare, instead of letting me get them,,, and keep them, during the week,,, not in kids best interest,, she could pay mer monthly support and i could care for the kids like i have done since they were born,,, the judge saw this,, and made it a point,,, she wont pay me spousal support and have the kids stay with me all day,, but she will pay someone else to care for my kids,, - shows as rather vindictive,,,!!!!

i mentioned i would do whatever is best for my kids and this was not the best thing for them,, when their dad sits at home,,, and they go to daycare????? totally rediculous,,,.

judge agrees with me,,

so things are gonna change i hope,,, we did set a trial date , for this january,,, the wife is cuttin off clients of her personal business and trying to make her income look low,, but the fact remains the moment she gets a favourable judgement, based on lower income she can easily go and take more clients again ,, and make that extra 50k,,, on top of her salary of 52k,,,

she is so evil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the judge said i was very resourcefull to survive for 6 months on no income,,,

the Ex must now pay me,, its only a matter of how much,,, she looked very very cruel and greedy,, and it showed on her face,,, i now get the HebieJeebies when i look at her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so thats why i have been away from the group ,, preparing for this meeting ,,, signing crap,, etc,,, now i can relax till the next one,,, how fun,,

its a no brainer too, i was a disabled stay at home dad,, she earned the bread and i looked after the kids when she worked and did her courses to become a liscenced CGA,, took years and years for her,, and i helped her get there,,, so like any disabled homemaker,, i should get the home and kids and th ebread winner leaves,, not i leave with nothing,, and she sticksd them in daycare,,

only me and my kids suffer not her,, that is wrong,, she is also breaking the Oprah and Dr. Phil rules of not talking bad about each other in front of the kids,,, it is just insane what she is doing,, also discussing possible custody scenarios,, making the kids think this and that and its not even settled,,,then they ask me if its true and i look like the bad guy saying no,,, your mom is wrong,,

all the things those books say NOT to do, my ex is doin,, she still calls herself MRS., and wears her wedding ring,, but can no longer accept communion in her catholic church,, and now the kids dont go to church anymore,, what does that tell them???

thankyou for reading this far down,the post,, i appreciate being able to get this off my mind,,

what do they call it when you lie on a sworn legal court document?????

perjury!!!!!!!! yeehaaa she will get hers one day soon!!!!!

bobbyD ;)

[DarkReaper]

Good i think people should read this and see how other people are doing see if we can help you and see if we can try to assist you . it was a good read make her pay for what she does . DarkReaper

[bobbyD]

Good i think people should read this and see how other people are doing see if we can help you and see if we can try to assist you . it was a good read make her pay for what she does . DarkReaper

my wife was the one who wants the divorce ,she told me and she told her family that '' she doesnt want to grow old and bitter like her mom caring for a disabled person in a home,,,''

she told me if i loved her and my kids i would go out and work to support them,

i tired that last august and lasted 11 days till i had to go to the hospital for treatment due to startin up an MS attack,,, i just cant do it,,, this attack left my left hand PARALYZED,, been horrible trying to use it since last november,,, and i am left handed,,,

my doctor ordered me NOt to work again,, cuase everytime i have an attack,, when i do.

i need to be near a bathroom ,, i cant sit for long eperiods of time due to my stomach tumor problems,,, i need a cane to stand,, i cant walk far,,, i cant do stairs,,, i cant hold anything with left hand or even type with it,, i can use only one finger of my left to type,,, i have a severe depression right now,, i have a severe, exhaustion problem too, MS caused,, i wake up tired and pop pills to get off,,, so i can wake up,, then i pop more morphine to kill my pain and that doent go good with an upper,,, uppers/downers at same time??? nice therapy eh???????

i have bad optic neuritis in left eye,, it barely works,,, so i cant be a scientist using a microscope,,, or brain surgeon,,, reading is very hard for me to do,,, i make my fonts huge on my screen,,,

i shake alot ,, bad spazticity,, all day,,, wont be cleaning your teeth,,, i would jab your face,, wont be a dynamite teck either,,,

i would be great at only one job- growing marijuana!!!,, !!! i can sleep all day get up feed them,, go back to sleep,, - repeat for 8 weeks etc,,, thats my life now,, as a disabled person,

i never collected disability before cause i didnt feel i needed it,, we had a good home and income,,, so i never applied till now,,,

i like it how she waited untill she got her CGA licence to decide i was not any good anymore,,,

her mom is pissed cause she is a hardcore catholic and her daughters dont dump their disabled husbands ang get divorced,,,,, she is stuck in the middle ,,, caring for her disabled husband in a home,,, and watching her daughter dump her marraige and disrespect their church.


i feel for all single moms who deal with deadbeat dads who refuse to pay,,, if i was not disabled my old company would still be around and i would be making 80k a year,,,, and if divorced i would pay childsupport,,,

but since the shoes on the other foot the ''woman'' in this case,, wants both her cake and my cake and whatever cake she can get her hands on,, all the cake belongs to her,, i own no part of the caketrailer for camping , the tv's or other pieces of cake found in the matrimonial hime i helped build,,,

she is stupid,, i cant explain it any other way,, she had a chance to pay me out based on her false claimed income total,, now its 30k higher and may go more as we have ordered a sort of document type audit of her home based company,,, to find the real amount,,, of what she makes,,,

based on a 70k income she claims there is nothing left after expenses for her to afford to pay me spousal support,,,

hmm last time i picked up my kids there was a new glass table patio set, and a nice 8 person hottub running in my old backyard,, ???? also new dining table,, in the house too,,, also,, i will stop,, but you get my point eh?????? hottub was maybe what 3-4 k????? ,,,,,,4 k on a hottub after i move out???????? but she is broke and cant afford anything?????hmm i smell a rat,,,


maybe i will get that radical pissed of fathers group to block the bridge on her way home from Vancouver,,, wait for her on the bridge!!!!! throw tomatoes on her car!!!!! that would be funny,,

seriously though,, i would like people to know that men get screwed in court,, i had an old fashioned judge in december and he was an asshole,,,

i had a hot looking lady judge today,, and i want her phone number,,, , i mean she treated me way better,,,

who ever is the breadwinner has to pay ,, if you helped them become something, a doctor lawyer certified general acct. etc,, they have to support you,, add your disabled and have been since 1998,, well again no brainer,,,

all i want is equaltiy under the same laws,, as any other homemaker.

just because i have a penis should not decide this,,, its reverse sexual discrimination. :D

bobbyD

[Biggs]

Bobby sorry to hear this.

I can relate to the idea that people know how you feel. The first time I went into the doctor who works with the govt to determine disability he looked me square in the face and said nothing was worng with me.

The fact that I was anemic, have aids, no immunne system and was getting sick on every drug they gave me. At the time I was pissed and angry. Now I understand it is just the stupid world we live in. Now I am applying for the second time and have to go to a diff doctor. Cant wait. I could careless what they say. I know that after this second time I need to get a lawyer and go for diability.

Your ex wife is wasting so much hateful energy she is blind to what is happening and how she is hurting the kids.

Hang in there

Biggs

[Dentyne]

Well, glad to hear that the future is looking brighter for you.

But you must be VERY thrifty to last 6 months without any income!

Peace

[Hotglass]

Hopefully things will work out for the kids' best Bobby. I never took a dime from my kid's deadbeat. Its less energy to hassle to be honest.
I'm sorry your day was like this. Its tough going through divorce but you'll have energy for you now to make the most out of what your body CAN do.
Maybe you can do what I'm doing while kiddos are gone and focus on you?
I hope you feel stronger ;)

[darnpj]

Hey Folks,

Its amazing that it seems sometimes that the same love that started the marriage can turn into such hate at the end. almost altho you never knew eachother.And when a lawyer opens his mouth and says something that he knows can be shot full of holes by a good lawyer. Its would be easy and true to say a job OK lets start with #1 if you are a honest person as iam sure you are ya gotta tell the propestive boss about your physical problems!
I must say that having been thru this they can and do say i spoke with my insurance and you are too much of a liability and they can not or will not cover you.#2 Can you perform simple dexterity test and pass with the drugs you have on board? Its just a comedy of errors it seems . I wish you the very best in your endeavor to obtain what may be rightful yours anyway.?oha mas darnpj

[swampy]

Thats fantastic news Bobby :D tell the wife shes already bitter so get old now

[buddyh]

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